The 30 Best Couples' Sex Toys to Spice Things Up in 2023

Waterproof vibrators, app-controlled and other sexy stuff

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We’ll let you in on a secret: Any sex toy is a couples’ sex toy if you try hard enough (or just get creative enough). And there's a universe of selections, all with discreet mailing, available online, all with discreet mailing, including insertable vibrators, clitoral stimulators and penis rings. We've personally tested devices, consulted experts, investigated designs and pored through reviews to sort out the best couples' sex toys for pleasuring you both.

Meet the Experts

Kiana Reeves is Chief Content Expert for Foria, a sexual wellness company known for its CBD-powered lubes and organic arousal oil. Reeves is a certified somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker, embodiment and intimacy coach, certified full spectrum doula and mother. For more than 10 years, she has been an educator and leading voice in the sexual wellness movement.

Soumyadip Rakshit is founder of British sexual wellness firm MysteryVibe, maker of an innovative collection of vibrators.

How to Find the Right Couples' Sex Toy for You

Remember when we said that any sex toy is a couples' sex toy? Well, that's true; the sky is the limit. "Technically speaking, a couples sex toy is one that targets both partners together, whether simultaneously or not." says sex educator Reeves. "Take a couples vibrator, for example—it can be inserted into the vagina during penetration and enhance sensation for the clitoris, G-spot, and the penis at the same time. To enhance couple’s play even further, I recommend adding Foria Sex Oil with CBD ($44), designed for people with penises and vaginas, into the mix." From goddess pleasure balls to targeted vibrators, all types of toys are available. But truth is, only you and your partner know what's actually best for you, considering each other's comfort levels and limitations. Here are some points to consider when shopping for a couples' sex toy:

• Function: Are you thinking this is something you'd like to both enjoy simultaneously (such as our top overall toy, the Lelo Tor 2 Couples' Ring, $129) or one that one of you will use while the other person watches? Or are you thinking you'd like a device that can be used all sorts of different ways?

• Material: Silicone, glass, metal or some combination of these are all on the table—and keep in mind if you'll be wanting a silicone device that's waterproof, in case tub/shower time is an option.

• Size: From small fingertip add-ons that buzz to large wand massagers, there is a size you'll feel comfortable using. Note to frequent flyers: We highly recommend choosing a device to help you relax into whichever time zone you find yourself in.

• Ease of Use: Want a simple pair of on-off buttons? Or do you prefer a toy that's app-enabled, and can be controlled remotely? Browse Lelo, We-Vibe and other design-forward makers to familiarize yourself with the latest toy tech, to see if it interests you.

• Choose the Right Lube: Have a good lube ready to go when your toy arrives, and be sure that your favorite formula is approved for use with whatever toy you've chosen. According to Astroglide, lubes containing silicone are believed to stay slippery longer, but may break down silicone toys over time.

I'm Curious, but Don't Know How to Bring Up Sex Toys with My Partner

You might be surprised at how receptive your partner is to experimenting with a toy—lots of couples are using sex toys to enhance their experience and communication. "We’re starting to see some of the taboo around the topic lifted, which is a wonderful thing," says Reeves. "The pandemic definitely gave us all some extra time to focus inward and think about what we want and what brings us the most pleasure in and out of the bedroom – and now, a lot of the stigma around sharing those thoughts and feelings with a partner has lessened." Sex toy brand We-Vibe conducted a study of 1,000 men and women between the ages of 35 and 55 and found that 49 percent of couples that use vibrators together report communicating often, whether about sex toys or other topics. Added bonus: There's evidence that using toys together increases couples' ease with giving and getting direction from their partner in bed.

Soumyadip Rakshit, founder of British sexual wellness firm MysteryVibe, suggests you "ease partners into the conversation about sex toys by sharing well-researched articles, especially in reputable outlets." Or you can simply say: "I was thinking about trying this toy with you and wanted to know what you thought." Anything that keeps the focus on mutual pleasure and playful curiosity is a great way to introduce toys in general or a specific one.

Finally, a great way to get inspired is to browse online superstores like Lovehoney and PinkCherry that sell all the best brands and have a steady stream of irresistible sales , such as the 70 to 80 percent off sales each brand has on currently.

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Top Overall Couples' Sex Toy

1. Lelo Tor 2 Couples' Ring


  • What we like: silky material, 6 vibration settings
  • What we don't like: toggle settings can be hard to manipulate
  • Material: body-safe silicone
  • Battery life: 1.5 hours

This matte green body-safe silicone ring fits over the penis, and has six speeds from a faint murmur to a strong pulse. It's meant to give pleasure to both partners, since the vibrating part stimulates the wearer and the partner. As one user writes: "My wife loves the many vibrations. Helps me maintain longer erections. Best yet, my wife loves the big Os." Oh, and it's waterproof and rechargeable.

Best Clitoral & G-Spot Stimulation

2. Womanizer OG


  • What we like: internal and external stimulation, afterglow setting
  • What we don't like: tends toward gentle stimulations
  • Material: soft-touch silicone
  • Battery life: 120 minutes

If you're someone who gets pleasure from both internal and external stimulation, this vibrator is for you. Use it in the bedroom with your partner to increase your climax, thank us later. Here's how it works: One end of the slender 6.9-inch vibrator has the controls, while the other has a rounded tip with an air stimulation center which can be held against your outside (clitoris) or insides (the G-spot). Twelve intensity levels of air stimulation plus three speeds of vibration mean there's a lot of potential for experimentation with this streamlined device. And bonus—by pressing the minus button after you climax, the vibrator ratchets down to its lowest hum, aka the "afterglow" setting. It's a late 2022 addition to the Womanizer brand lineup, but its innovation has already gotten couples' raves: "Ladies, buy this for yourself. You will not regret it," says one reviewer. "Gents, buy this and use it on your lady. You will not regret it."

  • What we like: 80-inch length allows spread-eagled position, D-rings allow multiple configurations
  • What we don't like: fits only double beds
  • Material: latex-free velcro. faux fur
  • Battery life: no batteries

BDSM is not for the faint of heart, but if it's you and your partner's cup of tea, these bed restraints will kick it up a notch. It has ankle and wrist cuffs and is inspired by the Fifty Shades of Grey books.

Top Remote Control Toy

4. Lelo Hula Beads


  • What we like: hands-free, remote-controlled up to 39 feet
  • What we don't like: sensation may be too subtle for some users
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: 2 hours

These beads are remote controlled and will rotate and vibrate for the ultimate pleasure sensation. LELO claims these beads will offer a thrilling hands-free experience that "turns your whole body into a sensual dance floor," and we're not mad about it. Neither is this happy reviewer: "I bought this product for my wife about a month ago," the reviewer writes. "It’s well-built easy to use and great for couples' play. The vibrations are very strong and the remote are perfect for discreet play."

Best for Long-Distance Couples

5. Ohmibod Esca 2


  • What we like: optional LED light shows device pulses, 6 play modes
  • What we don't like: Bluetooth connection can get lost under clothing
  • Material: matte silicone
  • Battery life: 3 hours

Have your partner download the app so the intensity and pattern of this toy can be controlled from their fingertips while you have a virtual date. It has three vibration levels and four vibrational patterns.

Best Rotation Feature for Couples

6. Zumio X

Zumio X

  • What we like: easy-lock travel mode, 8 speeds
  • What we don't like: targeted energy might be too pinpointed for some users
  • Material: body-safe silicone and ABS plastic
  • Battery life: up to 2 hours

"I am no stranger to high-end toys, but the Zumio X is an absolute game changer—solo and especially with a partner," writes one user, who describes having intensified orgasms with it. This slender device uses rotation instead of the vibration that most handheld toys offer, resulting in more pinpointed stimulation. A small rotating head massages massage the clitoris, with eight speeds to choose from.

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  • What we like: double-ended massager stimulates both users at once, stimulates nipples also
  • What we don't like: shaft or arms not bendable
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: up to 2 hours

This cheerful pink Y-shaped silicone vibrator gets high marks for versatility since its ergonomic shape and multiple settings make it adaptable to practically any erogenous zone. As one user explains, "There are seven settings for the top two heads, and seven settings for the shaft, making 49 different possible combinations of vibrating pleasure. You are sure to find the right combination(s) for yourself and your partner."

Most Discreet Couples' Sex Toy

8. Crave Vesper Vibrator


  • What we like: elegant design, 4 speeds and 2 modes
  • What we don't like: skinny profile might not be thick enough for some users
  • Material: stainless steel
  • Battery life: 40 minutes

This teeny, portable vibrator has a rounded tip for exterior stimulation and a nearly 4-inch shaft for interior stimulation. It also has four speeds and two modes—but that’s not all. Meant to be worn as a necklace, you can easily slip it around your neck (and use it as a signal to let your partner know exactly what time it is).

Best Clip Design Couples' Sex Toy

9. We-Vibe Couples' Vibrator


  • What we like: puts exact pressure on the clitoris, 7 vibration patterns
  • What we don't like: might be too subtle for some users
  • Material: body-safe silicone
  • Battery life: 120 minutes

Clip this on your partner during intercourse for some clitorial and G-spot pleasure that you can also feel. Totally waterproof, this is a great toy to keep in the shower or bath. As one reviewer puts it, “You know you want it. Just get it. You won’t regret it. EVERYONE needs this.”

Best Butt Plug for Couples

10. Alula Lifestyle Anal Training Set

Alula Lifestyle

  • What we like: jeweled base, three sizes: small (3 x 1 inches), medium (3.3 x 1.3 inches), large (3.6 x 1.6 inches)
  • What we don't like: silicone lubes aren't optimum for silicone toys
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: no batteries required

Anal play can be the third rail in relationships, but this sparkly set of plugs might help charm a person into exploring new frontiers. Plus, the three sizes included in this set means trying these out is less intimidating than a one-size-fits-all experience with a single plug.

Top App-Controlled Couples' Sex Toy

11. We-Vibe Moxie


  • What we like: small size, quiet operation
  • What we don't like: magnet might slip with a lot of movement
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: up to two hours

Sex educator Kiana Reeves says "discreet toys that can be worn underneath your clothing are on the rise." Case in point: the WeVibe Moxie remote- and app-controlled wearable clitoral panty vibrator. It's a 3.5-inch by 3-inch super skinny vibrator that fastens to your underwear via a super strong magnet, and a handheld remote that controls the speed and intensity of vibrations. And—this is the prestige, if you will—the panty vibrator can also be controlled via Bluetooth app from anywhere.

Best Hands-Free Couples' Sex Toy

12. Dame Eva II Hands-Free Vibrator


  • What we like: innovative design, small size
  • What we don't like: vibration strength might not be intense enough for some users without hand pressure
  • Material: medical grade silicone
  • Battery life: one hour on high speed

The Eva II is perfect for clitoral arousal during sex. It also features a hands-free design (the two wings can be tucked under the labia to stay in place), so you two can use those hands for...other stuff. Or, if you prefer, your partner can keep it still using only one finger. Plus it's waterproof. Note: You can peep this little guy's sale price by signing in to Amazon Prime.

Most Bendable Couples' Sex Toy

13. MysteryVibe Crescendo


  • What we like: clitoris, g-spot and p-spot stimulation, customizable shapes
  • What we don't like: 16 intensity settings might be overwhelming to first-time sex toy users
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: 60 minutes

This bendable vibrator lets you indulge in a combination of old school creativity (you and your partner can bend it to whatever shape you want) and new tech gadgetry (there are six motors down the length of it controlled by an app with pre-set motions or your own sequencing). Clitoral, G-spot and perineum stimulation are all part of its tricks (of which there are so many, the makers came out with a deck of cards so you can collect all the sensations).

Best Blindfold for Couples

14. Dominix Deluxe Blindfold


  • What we like: large sized, generously padded
  • What we don't like: non-elastic fastening requires exact fitting
  • Material: leather
  • Battery life: no batteries

Blindfolds are great for building tension and teasing your partner. This lightly padded one is a better option than the many flimsy versions on the market, and it has a buckle that keeps it in position far better than the satiny, slippery ribbons on other masks. "This blindfold does not move one bit. It keeps out all the light, feels comfortable on the wearer, is adjustable, made sturdy," writes one satisfied customer.

Best Flogger for Couples

15. 'Fifty Shades of Grey' Please Sir Flogger


  • What we like: 15-inch length is easy to wield
  • What we don't like: faux leather is less durable than leather
  • Material: faux leather
  • Battery life: no batteries

This silver metallic faux leather whip is on the cuter end of the BDSM accessories spectrum but still will sting when playfully wielded. Take turns using it on each other for a buildup and pleasurable tingling experience. And at $29, consider this your 'Intro to Kink' accessory without having to invest in spendy leather goods.

Best Insertable Sex Toy for Couples

16. Lelo Ida Couples' Vibrator


  • What we like: wearable during intercourse, lightweight
  • What we don't like: can slip during intercourse
  • Material: body-safe silicone and ABS plastic
  • Battery life: two hours

This Lelo vibrator comes with a serious price tag—but it’s worth it, we promise. "Very stylish thing to use and extremely fun to play with," reports one reviewer about this toy that's made to be inserted. During intercourse, it will vibe for you both, while giving her a little extra clitoral stimulation. Oh, and while it is remote controlled, it is possible to change the settings without it.

Most Travel-Friendly Couples' Sex Toy

17. Dame Fin Finger Vibrator


  • What we like: alternate ways of wearing it on the hand, travel lock guards against accidental suitcase triggering
  • What we don't like: might be too subtle for some users
  • Material: medical-grade silicone
  • Battery life: 90 minutes on strong setting

Each partner can take turns slipping this blue toy on their fingers and using it, well, wherever they’d like. This small-but-mighty vibrator can be used on three speed settings during both foreplay and sex. And, BTW, it’s definitely discrete enough to travel with.

Most Versatile Couples' Sex Toy

18. Satisfyer Endless Love Toy


  • What we like: use more than 14 ways, 10 vibration patterns
  • What we don't like: large size (11.97 x 6.06 x 1.77 inches)
  • Material: body-safe silicone
  • Battery life: up to 30 minutes

See those two tiny buttons? They operate two separate motors (one upper and one lower), delivering the exact vibe you want, exactly where you want it. This Satisfyer tool can be worn 14 different ways, for women, men and couples.

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19. 'Fifty Shades of Grey' Inner Goddess Pleasure Balls

Fifty Shades of Grey

  • What we like: chrome plated steel balls, strengthens pelvic floor
  • What we don't like: may be too heavy for new ben wa ball users
  • Material: chrome, steel, silicone retrieval cord
  • Battery life: no batteries

As Fifty Shades of Grey author E.L. James writes: "I flush from the constant movement of the silver balls. They weigh down inside me, massaging me internally and make me needy, needy for sex." Each of these weighs just under 4 ounces, and one reviewer reports, "I think these are some of the heavier balls available, which is more of a challenge and more sensational for the wearer." It's the secret that it's inside that will help increase the sexy tension between you and your partner until they're taken out.

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Top Suction Toy for Couples

20. Kiki De Montparnasse The Cloud Massager

Kiki De Montparnasse

  • What we like: delightful gift boxing, travel pouch included
  • What we don't like: buttons might be hard to spot in the dark
  • Material: body-safe silicone
  • Warranty: One year

This vibrator comes from luxury French lingerie designer Kiki De Montparnasse, and it's got an upscale feel to it—from its small size (only 5-inches by 1.5-inches) to maximum features: It has eight intensity levels and an air-puffing function for clitoral stimulation for couples or individuals. "Chic, discreet and very effective," writes one user, who adds that it comes with a little silk bag for discretion.

Best Pillows for Couples

21. Dame Pillo Pillow


  • What we like: neutral colorway, surprisingly handy for new positions
  • What we don't like: foam seems heavy
  • Material: polyurethane foam
  • Battery life: no battery

By day, it's a mild-mannered wedge-shaped pillow among the collection on your bed. By night, it becomes a soft-yet-firm wedge that supports you in all sorts of positions. Fifteen inches wide and 18 inches deep, this pillow comes with a removable, washable cover. "Has transformed my sex life," one reviewer reports. "This not only allows for the woman to be supported and in the perfect positions, but it takes pressure off the man during oral sex especially. Highly recommended!"

  • What we like: unique wearable male design, vibrates during insertion
  • What we don't like: settings on device are harder to manipulate than on the app
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: two hours

A unique design that is all about adding sensation for all parties involved, Tenuto is designed to stretch and adapt around the penis and perineum for increased blood flow, extended erection and long-lasting pleasure. You pull the sides of it apart to fit around a penis, and it vibrates before and during penetration, so scrotum, labia, shaft—it's all getting stimulated.

  • What we like: quilted vegan leather, wide surface
  • What we don't like: blindfold is a bit skimply
  • Material: vegan leather
  • Battery life: no batteries

Lightly padded diamond-stitched vegan leather in basic black complements the classic design of this paddle. At 13 inches long and 2.5-inches wide, it's not super-big and scary, and lightweight enough to wield for what its makers suggest: "Use it for gentle correction, caressing skin or serious spanking fantasies." The matching ankle and wrist cuffs plus blindfold round out the set.

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24. Lovehoney Colourplay Nipple Suckers

Best Nipple Toy for Couples

These devices suction the nipples for enhanced sensitivity and arousal. The suction is gently and delightfully stimulating for even more pleasure in the bedroom, and this toy gives you a fun reason to leave the lights on—the silicone material changes color as body temperature rises.

Top Nipple Toys

24. Lovehoney Colourplay Nipple Suckers


  • What we like: changes color as you use it, intuitive design
  • What we don't like: can detach with vigorous movement
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: no batteries

These devices suction the nipples for enhanced sensitivity and arousal. The suction is gently and delightfully stimulating for even more pleasure in the bedroom, and this toy gives you a fun reason to leave the lights on—the silicone material changes color as body temperature rises.

Best Couples' Sex Toy for Him

25. Fun Factory Manta

Fun Factory

  • What we like: clasps penis during solo play, oral sex or during penetration
  • What we don't like: might be unwieldy at 7.1 inches for some users
  • Material: silicone, ABS plastic
  • Battery life: 40 to 120 minutes

"I bought this after a session where my wife used her vibrator on my penis and found that I could orgasm from the sensation," writes one reviewer. "It makes sense if you just think of the penis being a big clitoris...a big source of pleasure." This device has two silicone wings that wrap around a man's penis, with ridges along the inside of the wings to hold lubricant in place for added sensation. Added bonus: It's suitable for solo and couples' play.

Best Couples' Sex Toy for Her

26. Phanxy Clitoral Tongue Vibrator


  • What we like: flexible tongue mechanism, vibration and licking modes
  • What we don't like: magnet charger falls off charging port
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: one hour

This little palm-sized device is meant to give women a new experience of oral sex, with the center of its rose petals designed to move like a tongue in the user's choice of nine speeds. Robot cunnilingus, anyone? Bonus: If your partner holds this against your naughty bits, they'll be able to enjoy your pleasure eye-to-eye at the same time as they're giving you (simulated) oral sex.

Most Elegant Couples' Sex Toy

27. Bijoux Indiscrets Twenty One Vibrating Diamond

Bijoux Indiscrets

  • What we like: strong vibration, giftable packaging
  • What we don't like: no insertable parts
  • Material: ABS plastic
  • Battery life: up to one hour

On your nightstand, it looks like a cute golden diamond-shaped decorative object. But turn it on and cycle it through seven vibration patterns and three intensities, and it's mind-blowing as well as decorative. The 3-inch diameter device nestles in your palm and both the flat edge and tip can be used for stimulating both partners.

Best Vibrating Plug

28. Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Vibrating Plug


  • What we like: small length isn't intimidating, 20 functions
  • What we don't like: 3.25-inch circumference might be too petite for p-spot stimulation
  • Material: silicone
  • Battery life: 80 minutes

A novice user comments: "My partner and I wanted to try something new and thought we would give anal toys a go. This toy isn’t intimidating and really comfortable. Loads of settings to play with and really easy to use." It's three inches long and has three speeds and 17 patterns of vibration, and bonus, it's completely waterproof.

Best Bath Salts

29. Foria Intimacy Bath Salts


  • What we like: light rose scent, penetrating relaxation
  • What we don't like: might make some sensitive types too sleepy for intimacy
  • Material: salt with added CBD oil
  • Battery life: no batteries

Add a scoop of these bath salts to your tub to heighten sensations and get you ready for action. Foria sells three beautiful bath salts—Relief Salts, Wellness Salts and Intimacy Salts. Our reviewer tried all three separately, and while they're all luxurious and gorgeous smelling, she says theIntimacy Bath Salts really take the cake. "Upon leaving the bath, my skin was super soft, I smelled great (thanks to ingredients like rose, kava, cacao, hemp and Himalayan salt) and I was honestly ready to get down in the sheets. Amazing."

Best Massager Couples' Sex Toy

30. Le Wand Rechargeable Vibrating Massager

Le Wand

  • What we like: powerful vibration
  • What we don't like: bulky
  • Material: Body-Safe Silicone and ABS plastic
  • Battery life: up to 3 hours

Remember that episode of Sex and City when Samantha's "neck" massager died at the worst possible moment? Well, we took two lessons from that: Massagers can be actual sex toys, and cordless and rechargeable ones are an absolute must. This one is ideal for couples experiencing sex toys for the first time. It's effortless to use: All you or your partner needs to do is use it on your erogenous zones. And it has a flexible neck and 20 vibration patterns to match your comfort level.

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